Are You a Man That Was Sexually Abused? Feel Like You Have to Deal With It Alone?
Many men feel this way. You are not alone. You may have already sought out solutions to this problem you think is too complex to solve. You may feel like your masculinity and innocence were taken from you leaving an overwhelming amount of guilt and shame that goes hand in hand with tremendous anxiety.
Thoughts of never being able to have a healthy sexual relationship bring about a feeling of emptiness and impending doom that is heavy in its weight. Out of nowhere you can experience a rage that feels all encompassing and uncontrollable.
Do you feel like you should just man-up and forget this incident ever happened? You may compulsively use porn, prostitutes or promiscuous relationships to help gain back the freedom and control taken from you but you know these remedies never fulfill the need to be loved.
If you feel you’re too damaged to be loved the way you want and deserve, then keep reading.
There is Another Way.
By slowing down and releasing the emotional and spiritual blocks that no longer serve you, you can enjoy the freedom to explore your sexuality without shame.
You can increase the feeling of connection with close friends and intimate partners. The knowledge that you are in control of your life and the choices you make becomes apparent and accepted with ease.
You find relief from the flashbacks and nightmares, making sense of traumatic events in the present moment. You will develop your intuition to know how and when to make appropriate boundaries. You can move forward in your life and reclaim your voice in the world.
In working with me, it doesn’t matter where you live. All sessions are done over the phone from the comfort of your own home and are completely confidential.
The Method.
Men often struggle alone if they have a history of sexual abuse. Unfortunately our society tends to brush off the possibility of men (as boys or men) being abused especially if a woman was the perpetrator. Regardless of gender, the impact of being sexually abused and assaulted has a detrimental effect on how you perceive the world.
Intuitive Counseling is an integration of Energy Psychology and holistic healing that takes the body, mind and spirit into consideration as a whole living system. The goal is to release the emotional charge and physical symptoms resulting from traumatic situations, chronic/acute illnesses or habitual patterns. By guiding you to tune into your own inherent wisdom and guiding you through your process, habitual patterns and long held negative beliefs are identified and cleared without ever having to get into the “story” behind the difficulty.
While using Emotional Freedom Technique in tandem with Intuitive Guidance we work with what is most appropriate for the specific situation and individual session. You learn tools to use in your daily life that are simple and direct to assist you in staying grounded, conscious, at ease in the world and in touch with yourself..
This is not a technique that is mind over matter but rather mind in matter. The signals from your body and emotions are indicators of your own inherent wisdom trying to tell you what needs attention. We just follow that lead slowly and carefully.
You can consistently return to the techniques that work best for you anytime you are in need. Each healing session is unique to your specific situation and learning style yet based in a logically intuitive approach that helps you normalize your experience, no longer seeing yourself as a victim.
You forgive yourself for not knowing how to protect yourself at the time of the abuse. You become comfortable with a range of emotions, transforming what was once difficult into a powerful creative force. You harness a skill set that opens your perceptions of how you put yourself out in the world and how your exchanges with others effect how you give and take core information.
Why Work With Seth?
As a survivor myself I understand the complexities of recovering from sexual trauma. I also know that it can’t be done alone.
While working with somatic and talk therapists to heal the effects and unhealthy patterns of the abuse I came upon two unique systems of Energy Psychology that propelled my healing process tenfold. As I intensely studied Intuitive Counseling and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) it became apparent that I was meant to work with and teach other men who are suffering from this trauma. The skills and tools I’ve obtained have become an integrated part of my daily life.
What’s the Next Step?
If you’re not ready to dive into this work yet, that’s okay. You can subscribe to my newsletter to stay updated on recent articles, resources and connections for male survivors. The resource section of this site has many links to helpful people and organizations committed to reversing the effects of sexual abuse and making this crisis known as a social justice issue. The Articles section contains helpful information on the effects of sexual abuse, methods of treatment and exercises to expand your awareness and self-soothing capabilities.
If you would like to speak with me further about the work I do I suggest that we set up a free 20 minute phone consultation. This way you can get a sense if I am a good fit for you, hear how I work and ask any questions to make you feel more comfortable with the process. Go to the Contact page for more info on how to get in touch with me.